Forming friendships and social connections is an integral part of our well-being, but sometimes it can be difficult. But by examining our life experiences, we can understand what our main problems in building friendships are related to , and take steps toward conscious healing. What has a profound impact on how you show up in society: 1. The quality of our earliest attachments, how protected and loved we felt. One of the important factors that influences our ability to make friends is our family upbringing. Relationships within the family. The amount of closeness and support that we received from those closest to us, and the example of building communications between family members that we observed.2. The dynamics of our family relationships are what happened within the family over time. What events happened to family members and its social connections.3. How was your socialization, communication with peers at different stages of growing up and other adults outside the family? And whether you were supported in doing so or not. For example, if we grew up in a family where relationships were tense, distant or turbulent, this can affect our ability to trust and form healthy connections with others. If you have experienced trauma, neglect or inconsistency in the family of origin, it can affect our sense of self-worth and ability to engage in healthy relationships. These early experiences can shape our perceptions of ourselves as unlovable and of others that they are not safe or will not love us unless we we deserve their love. About the fact that friendship is painful and difficult. It is important to acknowledge and confirm the experiences and emotions associated with our family upbringing and the experience of socialization without assigning blame or judgment. Also, we can get quite traumatic experiences in communicating with people already in adulthood , which can also impact our self-confidence and ability to form friendships with people. Acknowledging how your life experiences have shaped your socialization can provide insight into your difficulties in forming friendships and provide a starting point for personal growth and healing .How you can start helping yourself now: 1. Exploring your life experience starting from the moment when difficulties began. Seek support from a therapist to explore specific experiences that may have influenced your beliefs and behavior in your relationships. Not to find someone to blame, but to understand you and your feelings. Find solutions.2. Live through suppressed feelings. Often there is a specific story behind what stops us from close friendships. Feelings associated with it could remain repressed from the focus of attention. And behind the feelings there remained unfulfilled needs, without satisfying which there is no desire or strength to take a step towards building new friendships or strengthening existing ones.3. Self-compassion and self-care are important steps to building your self-confidence. And this is one of the most important components in communicating with other people. We often demand that we meet some standards, but demands and a “magic kick” are not what you need. Understanding, friendly support from yourself with respect and acceptance is what will truly help you.4. Learn new skills. Find out what ways there are to build relationships and express your feelings. How to meet and talk to people about yourself and what interests you. How to feel your importance and not hurt yourself about the feelings and thoughts of other people. There are many great books on the topic of effective communication. But remember that they cannot fully replace a live, in-depth conversation about you personally with another person interested in your healing. To summarize, we can say that making friends can be difficult, and our experience in the family of parents can!