Examples of statements from people suffering from so-called love addiction (codependency) and who do not know how to build truly close relationships: - “I need you like air” - “I can’t imagine life without him/her" - "I want him/her to be around all the time, and I suffer if he/she is not around" - "I don't want you to sing/dance/work out ) sports, etc." - "I want you to sing/dance/play sports, etc." - "I don't want you to wear this" - “In order for us to be together, you must change” - “You must constantly compliment me/call me/tell me that you love me/take care of me, etc.” - “If you If he really loved me, he would have done this for me"; - "I constantly need confirmation from outside that I am beautiful, significant, loved, etc. "- "I cheat on my wife/husband in order to make sure that he (s) is the best"; - "Sometimes I need variety, and I find new sexual partners" - "I cannot be in the same relationship for a long time ";- "I get bored with the same partner" - "It hurts me when you go about your business and don't pay attention to me" - "You don't understand me" - "You shouldn't do this because that I don’t want you to do this" - “I know better what is important/necessary/useful for you, etc." - “Jealousy is a manifestation of love” - “You should not communicate with this person/people” - “We feel bad separately and feel bad together” - “I arrange random meetings” - “If you leave me, you will regret it” This is only a small part of the statements heard from people who tend to build codependent relationships. There could be many more such statements. And they all contain pain, suffering, jealousy, attempts to manipulate and control another person, attempts to remake one’s partner, lack of acceptance of the other person as a whole, for who he is, possessive feelings. And behind all this is the lack of true intimacy in relationships, the inability to open up to others, one’s own insecurities and other intrapersonal problems. If partners do not begin to engage in their personal development, and subsequently the development of their relationships, then such relationships are doomed to failure, and may even end in tragedy.