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From the author: Does a client who is “fine” need a psychologist? I was inspired to write an article by a recent meeting. My long-time client, with whom we work as her request arises, became interested in the following questions: does a psychologist only work when the client is “bad”? And when the client is “good” and he wants to tell about it, but there is no one? As an example, I have a quote from Bob Bellanca’s book “One Day, Maybe...”: “Five years of psychoanalysis with the same shrink - yes, I have my own psychoanalyst, a great guy, he has an office furnished according to all the rules Feng Shui, and the couch there is very comfortable. My psychoanalyst only listens, says nothing and never gives advice. Charges one hundred euros per hour, cash if possible. In a word, a first-class psychoanalyst.” I remembered and told the client that I had once read the article “Humor in Psychotherapy,” where the author Ilya Latypov described his experience like this: “One day I came to my psychotherapist for a regular weekly session in a good mood. They were walking wonderfully, there was lightness in my soul, there was a fresh breeze in my head. Having sat down on the sofa, I made a serious expression on my face and began to try to dig out some problem from myself. It was not a matter of their absence in principle, but of the fact. that I absolutely did not want to diligently squeeze out any suffering or heavy thoughts. I shared this with the therapist, even feeling something like guilt: they say, I’m sorry, I don’t have any problems for you today. - Well, we can just talk about it. yourself, about what interests you, and not about what worries you,” said my therapist. This was some kind of completely new turn for me. How, in psychotherapy, it is not necessary to present problems Yes, somewhere on the edge of consciousness? I had the idea that psychotherapy could simply be a way of self-knowledge, but I did not place this thought in reality... We had a wonderful conversation and with great interest, I found out something about myself - and left with a feeling of unusual lightness and joy.” I suggested that the client gain a new experience from communicating with a psychologist in the light of her interest. She assessed our meeting very positively, and I was pleased with the result. Upon completion, I began to look at the presentations of psychologists about what they work with, and on those sites where the links took me, there were lists of problematic situations that my colleagues offered to help clients overcome, and from what I saw, it turned out that a psychologist was needed only in grief. The following picture appeared before my eyes: a psychologist in the role of a fireman extinguishes the flames of clients’ life troubles. Well, if the client is “good”, but for some reason he cannot share his joy: for example, his parents are far away, his significant other is at work, his friends are busy, his colleagues have a lot of problems - the client experiences a certain vacuum of being heard, and the psychologist may also be needed in joy. And there is confirmation of this - my own experience and the experience of the above authors. What do you think? I remembered a joke: Petka comes to Kotovsky for a review of his dissertation in psychology. Kotovsky is indignant: “What kind of title is this for the dissertation: “What should you give Anka so that she can be with Petka?” No good! You can never defend yourself with a name like that. We need to change it! - I don't know! Please advise something! - Well, write the correct title: “Multifactorial vector analysis of the psyche of the female half of the population in order to clarify the cause-and-effect relationships between the satisfaction of psychophysical needs and readiness to enter into sexual relations.” - Great! Thank you! He defended himself “excellently”, goes out and meets Chapaev. He is also on defense. - What is the name of the dissertation? - “On the role of musical instruments in the life of the clergy”! - What was your name before your visit to Kotovsky? - “Why does the ass need an accordion?"!