Psycho-emotional manipulation is based on inducing in another person a feeling of guilt, shame, fear, and, as a result, uncertainty. Because of these feelings (or an acute reluctance to experience them), a person does as the manipulator wants against his desires and needs. This is possible in cases where a person does not control his emotions, has unprocessed triggers of the past and an internal deficit to which he clings like a noose. manipulator's hook. Therefore, after long-term personal therapy with a psychologist, it is difficult to manipulate a person. And vice versa. Keep track of which “loops” you have “sticking out”, because in this case there will be someone who wants to hook with their hook. Why do people manipulate? Let’s talk about interpersonal relationships and the reasons leading to psycho-emotional manipulation. Each of us is familiar with them: we are both in the role of a victim of a manipulator, and in the role of the aggressor himself. Is it possible to abstain from such games? Yes. If your deficits are under control, you will not succumb to provocation. If you are in contact with yourself, you will communicate with others without psycho-emotional pressure. So, what leads a person to use manipulation: inability (not desire, followed by fear of refusal) to speak directly and ask for an understanding of one’s true desires (with poor contact with one’s body) refusal to perceive another person as a separate person with his own rights to feelings, desires, values; no willingness to master and apply ways to achieve what he wants, taking responsibility; psychologically immature position, where there is an illusion that relationships are built on an obligation; I will offer several examples of how to recognize what is happening during manipulation. Option 1.🔊“Who needs you besides me, and with two children too! Be glad that I still tolerate you.”❗️What manipulation comes from: fear and shame.❓Why does the manipulator do this: he acts out of his fear of losing his partner, because he knows that other than “use” there is nothing more to give.❗️❗️What lies ahead cope if you don’t give in to manipulation: by accepting personal responsibility for possible consequences. Option 2.🔊“You don’t listen to what your mother tells you. I’ll die, you’ll cry bitter tears!” loneliness. Option 3.🔊“If I loved you, I would remember the date.”❗️What the manipulation involves: shame.❓Why the manipulator does this: the inability to speak directly about your desires.❗️❗️What you have to cope with if you don’t give in to manipulation : accept the other’s right to one’s processes and at this moment withstand the status of “bad” in the eyes of a partner. Option 4. 🔊 “You’re a specialist, you should know this.”❗️What does the manipulation involve: fear and shame, as a result of uncertainty.❓Why This is what the manipulator does: to emphasize his superiority, and against the backdrop of extinguishing the other, to come to terms with his imperfection.❗️❗️What you have to cope with if you don’t give in to manipulation: accept yourself as you are, and detach yourself from “goodness” in the eyes of another. Option 5 .🔊“Eat another piece. Well, don’t offend me as a mistress!”❗️What manipulation comes with: shame and guilt.❓Why does the manipulator do this: increases his self-esteem as a housewife by refusing to admit that the desires, needs and tastes of other people may be at odds with her.❗️ ❗️What you have to cope with if you don’t succumb to manipulation: leave the right to be offended by another person, and also recognize the true goal and price of communication with this person. If you want to understand how not to succumb to manipulation, I suggest a few questions for yourself: 🔹 Do I know what is manipulation and what is not?✔️If not, then increase the level of knowledge, psychological literacy in this topic🔹Do I know how to recognize psycho-emotional manipulation?✔️If not, develop this skill through.