(topic upon request) There are several reasons: 1. Non-stop mental flow. Unbreakable. Surplus. Negative thoughts and attitudes are like weeds in a garden - they sprout where they haven’t been “weeded”. 2. Attempts to control reality and predict. We try to “master” life in this way: if I predicted the next failure, it seems like I’m ready for it. Then it happens automatically. 3. Accumulated and unexpressed feelings: irritation, anger, fear, guilt. Feelings are energy. If you do not express them directly to the addressee, this leads to these thoughts “fermenting” in your head. The reason for expressing them in the future can be anything and it does not lead to anything good.4. Cultural approach: this is the way it is. Highlight what needs to be fixed rather than what is already working great. Remember the average parental upbringing. 5. The principle of TV news. 7 news about horrors and injustice, 1 about fashion, 1 about the weather. We are really taught this. So that life doesn't seem like honey. Serious guys only discuss problems and how to solve them. Sweet news - for wimps and weirdos with rose-colored glasses. 6. The principle of the structure of the universe: to break - not to build. For some reason, it is much easier to destroy than to create. It is much easier to make a negative comment than to notice a positive one. How it works is no longer a question for a psychologist, this is some kind of law of a higher order. What to do about it? First: reclaim the director's chair in your life. No thoughts or feelings can control you 100%. There is always a healthy, adult part of you that can direct any internal process in the direction you need. You did all this when you urgently needed to concentrate and get ready. Through training, bring this out of stressful situations into everyday life. Secondly: make a complete “inventory” of your beliefs: which of them prevent you from living, which ones help you. “Everything has been bought”, “I am uninteresting”, “All the rich steal”, “I have always been and will be like this”, “Only the naive are happy and smiling.” Write it down, discuss it, replace it. Third: choose, do you want to live “in tension” or “in pleasure”? You ask, “How simply can my thought change this?” And like this. If you are now living in negativity and tension, then you once made the decision to live this way. So, you can “change your mind”. You can do it yourself. Quickly - with a psychologist. To begin with, don't decide for life. Make this decision today.