Codependency is a psychological condition in which a person becomes dependent on another, trying to control his actions and behavior. Codependent people feel the desire to control every aspect of other people's lives, often due to their fear and low self-esteem. In this article, we will look at how codependent people express their desire for control and how this affects their lives and relationships. One of the main signs of codependency is the desire to control others. Codependent people constantly interfere in the affairs and decisions of others, even when this is not necessary. They often switch to obsessive thoughts that everything must be under control, and allow this fear to dictate their actions. This can manifest itself in controlling issues, imposing advice, and manipulative attempts to influence other people's decisions. One of the reasons codependent people strive to control others is their fear of losing control over their own lives. They may experience anxiety and worry when they are unable to predict or control events. Therefore, they look for ways to control other people in order to feel more confident and less vulnerable. However, this behavior only masks their own insecurities and low self-esteem. The desire to control others leads to problems in relationships. Constant management and manipulation of a codependent person can cause irritation and dissatisfaction in other people. This can lead to conflicts and breakups in relationships, since a codependent person often does not take into account other people's desires and needs, considering them unimportant or wrong. The result is mistrust and relationship distress, which can lead to isolation and loneliness. Additionally, codependent people's desire to control others can be detrimental to their own well-being. They often ignore their own needs and desires, focusing solely on being in control. This can lead to both physical and emotional exhaustion, as well as various physical and psychological problems. In order to overcome the desire for control, codependent people need to recognize and accept their codependency. They must realize that controlling others is not a healthy or productive way to manage their emotions and fears. Instead, they should work on developing their self-esteem, confidence and boundary-setting skills. Professional psychological help may be needed to assist in this process. In conclusion, codependent people, by wanting to control others, face problems in relationships and their own well-being. Their desire for control is an expression of fear and low self-esteem. However, codependent people can overcome this behavior by recognizing and accepting their codependency, as well as working on developing their self-esteem and skills to set boundaries. Sincerely, your psychologist, interpersonal relations specialist, Sergey Anatolyevich Krichevsky. Subscribe to my articles. Sign up for online consultations89200176355WhatsAppViberTelegram