This is a question men often ask themselves. “After all, I know that I don’t succeed in many things, I often experience failure. And she is so kind to me and says that I will succeed, that I am the best and can do everything and can do even more if I want. Why is she so kind to me?” The woman’s answer could be like this, if she realized this clearly and could say it out loud to him, she would dare, because it sounds ambiguous, although in fact there is kindness in this. “Because a woman wants her man to have. There was something to give her. So that he can take it with what he has, and he can give it.” He takes her, gives her, and she gives herself to him - and so they are happy and creative. This is good.” And the psychologist would explain to both of them what balance should be maintained in relationships in a loving couple, if they asked him, something like this answer from the psychologist: It is important for a woman to expect from a man what he will have if he has now there is nothing with which he can take and at the same time - giving and thereby taking. That’s why she turns a blind eye to the lack of something he has now, because she knows for sure that if she doesn’t get charmed, then she will begin to be disappointed (she will be left alone), it’s better to encourage him and help, then he will have everything And that’s better than she should start looking for another man again and hope that he has it. What does a man have and what can he take? This is his whole male personality - passion for life, for activity towards her (the woman), professionalism, intelligence, soul, etc. - he feels - I have. He has! - it is important for a woman to have at least some of these qualities; it is important for a woman to believe in a man’s potential. But a person always has potential. Another thing is that he doesn’t believe in himself. If a man doesn’t believe in himself so much that he becomes dull, boring, stuffy, without a sense of humor, then he irritates the woman at first, and then she, having suffered from his self-criticism and whining, leaves , so as not to fall ill with tediousness and laziness. There is another way for a woman - to cheer up a man with shock - i.e. provoke him into activity and she says such provocative words - you can’t, you don’t have it. But shock can also work in the opposite direction - leading a man to castration. He will lose all desire for her and for life. Or he may lose all desire for her personally with her shock help, and become aroused by another woman (even if abstract for now) and by life. This path of a woman (usually a failure) is clearly shown by the Woodcutter’s wife (stepmother) in the fairy tale by E.L. Schwartz, filmed in the Soviet film “Cinderella”, her role is played by the incomparable F. Ranevskaya. The entire volume she desires from her husband is expressed in one phrase: “The kingdom is not enough, I have nowhere to roam!” Dear reader! Let's exchange opinions on this matter. Contact me for help not only if you want to solve your problem, but also if you want a higher quality of your life, to achieve greater success in all areas of life. Make an appointment by phone +79119887123, SMS, WhatsApp.