If you feel constant pressure from your partner, feel that you are not loved, judged, or supported, then most likely you are faced with psychological violence. Types of psychological violence: 1) Verbal aggression: ridicule of what you said or you, accusation, dominance, that is, a hostile attitude expressed verbally. For example, a partner begins to use abusive words and expressions addressed to you, threaten, come up with humiliating nicknames, devalue, condemn, criticize. The aggressor does not acknowledge what is happening in their relationship, ignores the feelings of the partner, showing that they do not hurt him in any way. At the same time, the victim begins to have thoughts that she is doing something wrong. 2) Gaslighting is a deliberate drive to madness, an attempt to induce a feeling of personal inadequacy and doubts about the adequacy of the perception of reality. For example, the aggressor will use the following statements: “It seemed to you , actually it didn’t happen, everything’s fine.” or “Is it possible to be offended by such nonsense?” "You're making a mountain out of a mountain!" Yes, indeed, sometimes we can make mountains out of molehills and get offended by nonsense, but here we need to look at the overall picture, and not at specific phrases given in the article. That is, if you hear such statements on a regular basis, then you should think about the presence of psychological violence in your relationship, but if you hear this kind of phrase, roughly speaking, once a year, then you should not focus on this, most likely it is a common one-time conflict that occurs for many people in relationships. Also, with gaslighting, the aggressor can position the victim as a mentally unstable and stupid person. He is inclined to shift responsibility and blame the victim for his own actions: “It’s your own fault that I cheated on you.” Stages through which a victim of gaslighting goes: a) Denial - the victim notices the gaslighter’s strange actions and words, but finds explanations for them, justifying them in every possible way his actions. b) Active defense - the victim has doubts about his adequacy of perception of reality. c) Depression - the victim is broken. 3) The third type of psychological violence is violence at the level of actions. This includes ignoring and disappearing the aggressor for the purpose of punishing the victim - this is one of the most severe forms of violence. For example, a man is not going to leave a woman, but in order to teach her a lesson, he packs his suitcase, pretending that he is leaving forever. As a result, the victim falls at his feet and begs not to leave, promising to listen to him and indulge him in everything. This type of psychological violence also includes filtering questions, that is, the aggressor answers only those questions that are acceptable for him, ignores the rest, switches from warmth to cold, stares silently at point-blank range. 4) Blackmail and manipulation. The aggressor uses such techniques as positive reinforcement (praises, flatters, for the sake of some personal gain), seduces (famous pick-up artists), lies or partially holds back something. Uses emotional blackmail: “If you leave, I will commit suicide.” If you find yourself here, I recommend reading my article: Methods for preventing abuse from a partner If you need support and help in such a situation, sign up for a consultation (WhatsApp, Telegram, Viber +79081096544). I will listen, support and we will find a solution and a way out😉My VK group: https://vk.com/club189971892