Teaching children sexual concepts is very difficult for many parents. Many people feel uncomfortable talking about these topics. They believe that they can confuse and irritate the child. As if this topic is about something shameful, forbidden, and is not an important part of the lives of children and adults. When a child is born, sex education begins! You touch the baby's body when you wash, swaddle, massage or simply stroke. Mom makes eye contact when breastfeeding. The child receives the message - the body is good. It’s good to touch and it’s good to be touched, touching is normal and right. The child learns that touch is one of the ways one person shows love to another. And from early childhood he understands that mom and dad do everything differently - they hold him and look at him and touch him. Babies distinguish between the soft skin of the mother and the rough stubble of the father. They hear the difference in male and female voices. By the age of two and a half, children usually begin to notice gender differences. Girls realize that they have long hair and wear dresses, and boys have short hair and wear shorts and trousers. They see that they have “some” differences and do “pee-pee” differently. And sometimes parents are shocked when they catch naked children playing “doctor”. There is nothing abnormal about this, you just need to know what to do and what not to do. Children are very inquisitive, especially about their gender differences. Look at the problem through the eyes of a child. He wants to know what a member of the opposite sex looks like. THE DESIRE IN A CHILD IS TO SATISFY HIS CURIOSITY, NOT SEXUAL INTEREST. Actions are normal when the children are small, close in age, familiar, or in the same kindergarten group. They act by mutual agreement. Usually everything takes place in a gaming atmosphere. Secrecy is part of the game. What should shocked parents do? Precisely refrain from impulsive screams, threats and belting that children are doing something “disgusting” and “dirty”. Calmly switch children to another activity. For example - “I’ll help you get dressed, and we’ll clear the table and wash the dishes.” The child must understand that you are not angry. And in a calm conversation, tell them that curiosity is great and that you understand their desire to find out how another person works, but that it is completely wrong to touch the intimate parts of others and allow them to touch your own. Intimate parts of the body are those that are covered with panties and can only be touched by dad and mom when they wash the children and dress them. Be open, sincere and tell the facts without going into fantasies. If for some reason this conversation is difficult for you, then the child may decide that this is a “bad” topic and “bad” body parts. No - these are good parts of the body, but intimate. It is important to convey information about intimacy to the child in order to avoid sexual harassment. If you start conversations on these topics at two years old, then when your child is sixteen, they will not present any difficulties for you. Sincerely, your psychologist - Lyudmila Frantskevich. This topic should be continued…