Hello everyone! As has been said many times before, most of the problems and difficulties in relationships in a couple occur due to poorly established communications. In other words, people simply cannot understand each other and convey their point of view. I have highlighted several key points of this issue: 1. It is very important to know what you want. And how exactly your desire should be realized. Remember the rule: first build relationships with yourself, and only then with others. Decide what kind of support you need, what kind of praise or gratitude, how you want to spend your leisure time, etc. Usually people know exactly what and how they DO NOT want, but difficulties may arise in determining what they want. If you yourself don’t understand what you want, how can your partner give it to you?2. For your partner to hear you, you need to speak. It is a big misconception to believe that thoughts are projected onto our foreheads or transmitted directly to another person’s head. If you are not happy with some aspect of the relationship, or want to add something, talk about it. People, by definition, cannot read other people's thoughts. Sometimes it can be very difficult to talk about something while looking into your eyes. Then you can write or leave a voice message. It is better to convey information to your partner in this way than to be silently indignant, offended or sad.3. If your partner does not understand you right away, repeat again. And then again. And again. Until the essence of your message reaches the person. It is better to repeat in other words, ideally with feedback.4. It is important not only to speak, but also to listen. Relationships are built by two people, so everyone’s opinion should be taken into account. The partner also has the right to his point of view, his position, his emotions. To understand another person, you have to make some effort. And most importantly, you need to be interested in establishing mutual understanding.5. For contact to take place, you should not throw accusations at each other. Talk about yourself, about your feelings, about what you are missing. Do not rush to blame your partner for all mortal sins and failures. When a person is attacked, the natural reaction will be defense, and not the desire to hear and understand the aggressor. To more effectively build a dialogue with a partner, I want to share with you a three-phase structure of a statement. 1) when you... (do/say this and that) that's it)2) I feel...3) because for me it means...For example: “When you throw your socks around, I feel indignant, because for me it means devaluing my work to maintain order in our common home." Or: “When you say that I won’t succeed, I feel offended, because for me it means that my loved one doesn’t believe in me.” Practice shows that in this way built-in messages help to better convey your feelings to your partner and less causes a defensive reaction. I hope this recommendation will be useful for you. Communicate, talk, help people understand you) Take care of yourself! All the best!