They say it's bad to have a complex. It’s hard to disagree with this, but that’s not really the problem. The trouble is that everyone has complexes, but not everyone admits to them. And here the question arises: what is better, to know that you have complexes about your own appearance or to firmly believe that you are really an extremely ugly person? The answer is obvious. If confidence in your shortcomings does not allow you to move forward and change anything, then, on the contrary, it is quite possible to work through the complexes. If you realize that the problem is not in objective circumstances, but in your lack of self-confidence, the problem is already half solved. Where do complexes come from anyway? They are imposed on us by our environment. Let's say a stranger tells you that you are stupid. It probably won't make much of an impression on you. But if they talk about this to you with enviable persistence, most likely sooner or later this thought will stick in your head, and you will come to terms with this opinion about you. If we are talking about a child or simply an impressionable person, one such remark may be enough to form a complex. Most often, complexes originate from childhood. In connection with this, in adulthood, when our complex is affected, we often fall into a childish state. We begin to blush, lose the thread of speech, and try to hide from the situation that is traumatic for us. If your complexes are not obvious to you, try to pay attention to what can cause you pain. Look for the areas of your life where you are most vulnerable. Where you are most worried, worried, where anxiety and worry come over you, that is where your complexes lurk. How to deal with a complex when it is found? The technique here is simple. The complex needs to be worked through, to get rid of self-doubt, but since this can be quite painful, this can only be done in a safe environment. For example, if you are afraid to publicly express your opinion, you should start training by communicating with your loved ones, friends, then among colleagues, a small number of strangers. You can’t just take it and go on stage. You need to slowly start convincing yourself of your beauty, intelligence, and success. You need to understand that in order to be such, there is no need to obtain permission from other people. However, gradually, as you change, those around you will begin to notice them..