Quote from the Internet: “Women are not born wise, a woman who is called “wise” by others has raised herself in strict strict adherence to the rules. Each of us has this opportunity!” What What is female wisdom? Very often “female wisdom” means accepting and forgiving, tolerating and remaining silent. It becomes convenient to suppress your emotions, feelings, sacrifice yourself, endure pain and humiliation. In some ways, “wise” becomes synonymous with the word “comfortable.” This has nothing to do with real wisdom, it is false wisdom. Dear readers, I propose to look into this topic together. Which women are the wisest? Your husband goes out with his mistresses, and you forgive, remain silent and endure for the sake of your children, you are afraid to be alone, you are convinced that you are cheating on everything. The guy humiliates, insults your appearance and figure, and you run to change clothes because “in these pants your butt is big.” He insists on a threesome, you don’t want to, but you are looking for a girlfriend, because only a wise woman would agree to this. Otherwise, they will go out without you. You do all the housework, take care of the children yourself, because this is women’s work, and the man lies on the sofa at this time, goes to bars. You are silent all the time, do not express anger, indulge your partner, bet on His interests come first, and no one takes your wishes into account. You are modest, meek, quiet, caring, forgiving, but in your soul you have different emotions and you have to pretend. You are silent when he judges your mother, but you want to scream, you go to prepare breakfast with a fever, although you want to lie down. How does it work? It is assumed that as soon as you become comfortable, remain silent, forgive and please for everything, the man will appreciate you , will fall in love, will stay close. He can and will stay, because it’s so convenient. You can not come home for three days or go to Diman Work in the evenings, and at home everything will be clean, ironed and prepared. It's very comfortable. For a man. And for you? I consider female wisdom in its manifestation as adaptation to difficult living conditions, low self-esteem, fear of rejection, family attitudes and scenarios from grandmother and mother. Manifested in the alternation of masks. Patient, silent, modest, a good housewife, understanding, kind and there are a lot of such masks. It turns out that this is a pretense, you have to play a role, suppress yourself, in order to achieve some goal. Which one? Why is it harmful? And what benefit does it bring? A woman who bends over backwards to live up to her grandmother's instructions. Keep quiet, prepare delights every day, don’t get angry, don’t burden him with your problems, everyone is out with their mistresses, well, in general, we smile and wave. Neuroses, psychosomatic illnesses, fatigue, depression, and feelings of unhappiness in one’s own life appear. But everyone lives like this, right? NOT everyone. You don’t have to play the wise wife, you can just be loved by this particular man. And then you can be yourself, with all the advantages and disadvantages that you have. You can order pizza if you don't want to cook. You can talk about what you don’t like, even out loud! You can dress the way you want, not him. You don’t have to go to his friends for the evening, with whom you have nothing in common, but meet your girlfriends. You can not tolerate mistresses and demand to be his only partner. You can afford a lot of things if you build relationships that are not ideal, not like in the book “Wisdom for Dummies.” If you are not afraid of rejection, increase your self-esteem, build a model of behavior on mutual respect, and not on pleasing and a sacrificial position. Dear reader, did you like this article? What thoughts and emotions does it evoke in you? Do you show false wisdom in relationships??