From the author: Photo taken from Yandex.pictures Comparison on different grounds is one of the mistakes of the principles of formal logic. It is also a sign of cognitive impairment. But it’s so cool to compare aspens and oranges, or psychologists and jeans, so let’s start: 1. Psychologists are like jeans - You can try on at least 20 pairs and choose one single one (one single one). If you are lucky enough to find your psychologist/jeans the first time, you are incredibly lucky. 2. At first, new jeans are a little tight - the same with a psychologist. Trust does not arise from the first meeting, and sometimes not even from a thousand rubles. The optimal time to determine whether it will arise at all is from 3 to 10 meetings; if suddenly the jeans/psychologist are not yours, it is better to say goodbye. 3. Trust brands. There are classic Levi's or Wrangler, there are simpler ones, Turkish analogues, sewn according to someone else's patterns, and there are also advanced designer pants. It’s the same with psychologists - there is classical psychoanalysis, there is Gestalt, there is psychodrama, family systems therapy and NLP. Which brand/approach is yours is up to you to choose. Any overly esoteric techniques - such as clearing karma at a high price, or a Tarot reading for futures transactions, or entering the astral plane with subsequent integration of transcendental experience - should be avoided, because for people with a weak ego this may be too much, such as jeans with one leg. 4. Jeans are a must in any wardrobe. How many pairs and which ones - everyone decides for himself. Psychologists do the same - a psychologist can help most people in various life situations. For some, short-term therapy is enough to deal with the crisis; for others, longer work may be needed. 5. Sometimes it happens that jeans, for example, are all washed, but you really want to wear them. Or suddenly, for some reason, you don’t have any jeans in your closet. Then you can call a friend/boyfriend and ask for their jeans for one occasion. It’s about the same with psychologists - if you urgently need to share something and your feelings are about to overflow, then you can always call the helpline. 6. Jeans require careful treatment. Well, you yourself know - do not wash in a washing machine, temperature no higher than 30 degrees, do not use bleach. Also working with a psychologist. I really like the words of James Bugental, an American humanistic psychologist, which he said to one of his clients - “For you now, therapy is the most important thing you do in your life. So at the very least, treat her with respect.” And lastly, probably the most important thing: psychologists and working with a psychologist are not jeans. You can easily return the model you don’t like for some reason back to the store and get your money. This most likely won’t work with a psychologist. The most you can do is tell a psychologist about your feelings: that you are angry or feel offended. This is very important because when two people meet, rather than two pairs of jeans, the hope is that there will be a dialogue or an honest and open relationship between them, which, in fact, is the ultimate manifestation of intimacy between two people. And this happens very rarely and is already valuable for its self-sufficiency.