From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert of television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, best master, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, as you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube by typing “Afanasyeva Liliya I’ll start with the fact that most often young men turn to me with a similar problem, as a psychologist and sexologist. This topic is especially typical because the sexual experience is small, and there is no adaptation to one’s sexual male problem of alarming failure. On the one hand, this is not bad, it is better, as they say, to deal with this complexity from a young age than to adapt and drive away one’s own. problem with erection and potency deep into ourselves. Then it will be much more difficult for us, sexologists, psychotherapists, and family psychologists, to solve it. If we take as an example my client from Moscow, who came to me with erectile dysfunction and impotence (as he does in his own case). determined), by the way, the guy was only 19 years old, here it is worth considering the following aspects. The client had not yet had sex, as such, but there was some misunderstanding of his sexual orientation and sexual preferences. I would like to note what sexologists, psychotherapists and family psychologists often say in their work: in adolescence and adolescence there may be difficulties in determining one’s sexual preferences, and a guy may mistakenly consider himself gay. Therefore, here it is worth putting him on the “right rails” as soon as possible, but only if this is really his path. With all this, I began to work with my client from Moscow. The first thing that emerged was a certain lack of self-acceptance. Here a problem arose with classmates, when the guy did not behave like a dominant person, he was more friends with girls. He did not enjoy authority and respect among his male classmates. We freed him from the difficulties of the school period. He realized that he would never be a schoolchild again, and the client let go of problematic conditions. Now there is no need to adapt to them. Next, we moved on to working on “fear for others.” There was an inability to communicate with the male half, ignorance and misunderstanding: how to behave in a company, as well as fear of a fight. The latter is a separate topic altogether. Here, most often, a protective reflex and reasonable fear are triggered, and many of the boys and men try to avoid this unpleasant and sometimes dangerous incident, which, however, is correct. You shouldn't get into trouble. The client understood this and let go of his problems on this topic. Then there was a ban on relationships with women. And he received it in a rather strange way. When the client was still a boy and was visiting his grandmother in the village, where there was a toilet in the garden, he accidentally opened the door and saw a relative there - a woman who told him something unpleasant. From here he developed a certain aversion to women, which later intensified through the following situation. Then he did not understand who a woman and a girl were essentially, as a sexual object, since he himself was an unformed personality. He lacked masculine qualities. One of the guys noted that he had a gay gait. The client was ashamed to express himself in any way, and besides, he was afraid of being misunderstood. From here arose fear, complexes, and... a craving for men, which in reality was not manifested, but he sometimes had an erection and a sexual desire to have sex with a man. Now we have come to what was the cause of this incomprehensible craving. It turned out that the guy had