Series "Evil Texts". “Well, don’t I have the right to my own opinion anymore?!” - such an indignant phrase often flies in response to our “don’t tell me that” (when boundaries are violated). Well, sir, let’s take a look and separate the flies, as usual, from the cutlets. Does a person have a right to his opinion? Any - for any. Stopudovo YES. Do you think I'm doing the wrong thing? Do you think I look strange/ridiculous/beyond my age? Are you worried that I'm doing crap with my life? Have I chosen the wrong job, the wrong partner, and am I raising my children in the wrong way? Are you afraid for me and do you have the opinion that you should be more careful and never do this (dangerous and scary) thing? Do you think that this is RIGHT and this is WRONG? Do you think that I will regret this tattoo, green hair, marriage, losses and so on? Are you afraid that I will be left without money, without work and without an apartment? FOR GOD’S SAKE ! Of course and unconditionally, you have the right to think and feel like this. BUT! Let's see, why the hell do you need to tell me your priceless (it's clear) opinion? Well, as usual, to do me good. Help, so to speak, prevent and protect. Save, literally. So? Nope, not like that. Lies. (With good intentions.... you know where, right?) First, you need to drain your anxiety and fear of intolerance to ANOTHER life. Another. Not like yours. Or not like in your fantasies about the “correct structure of the world.” You are not able/able to accept DIFFERENT things. You need to calm down your anxiety - “I won’t tell you and I won’t be able to sleep peacefully.” Yeah, give me your poop and calm down. Doesn’t this seem strange, huh? In reality, many people think and (even say): “I can’t help but say. I’ll say it, and my conscience will be clear...” After all, one cannot be indifferent. AAAAAA. No, that won’t work. Manage your anxiety on your own. Speak your opinions somewhere else. I do not need. Your concern is NOT MY problem. Secondly, understand, owner of priceless opinions, that when you shove them WITHOUT ASKING, you are transmitting to me the following: “You are a fool, you won’t figure anything out without me.” I offer it every time, when an opinion asks to come out, voice this phrase first. Because that's the subtext. So what do we have here? Self-affirmation is pure. I (the adviser) am smart, understanding everything, and you are a fool. You won’t survive without me at all. I’ll tell you what. I have a couple of decades of teaching (I’m not afraid of this word) activity + Expert position in the profession. Well, this is my profession. Do I have opinions regarding everything that happens in the lives of different people (I know)? To hell. I really SEE what and why, and what can be done about it if you want to change and blah blah blah. Do I want to talk about it? Usually not. Sometimes it happens, rarely, but I try very hard to shut up unless asked. And even if they ask, don’t speak too much. Because, in addition to what I see, I KNOW very well that all these people are adults and self-sufficient and live exactly the way they want. And they will live exactly the way they want. No matter how it looks in my eyes :) And their life is none of my business. From the word absolutely. How did I achieve such zen? And by selfishness :) My life, my pleasures, my love, my achievements are MUCH more interesting to me. I have a LOT to do HERE. Not up to you, you know:)))