A very unusual and subtle feeling. The feeling that talking about tenderness is somehow shy for me, as a man, and also scary, as if I could be scared away. But I will try to carefully deal with the embarrassment and the voice in my head that “tenderness” is something gay. Because tenderness is a light and enveloping feeling, it is difficult to notice it behind the storm of stronger sensations of everyday life. Whether it’s rage, interest or passion, meeting them is somehow more familiar and clearer what to do, how to manage. Without somewhat downplaying the significance of vivid feelings, listening to myself, I notice the need and value of experiencing tenderness. But experiencing it is not so easy, most often I can notice my tenderness when someone else for a second opens his shell of social protections and shares his vulnerability. At such a moment I feel incredibly strong and at the same time notice the soft core within your being. At this moment, you want to be very careful, approaching not to frighten, not to offend, only admiring the beauty and courage of another’s action - to show yourself, to give the opportunity to see the light and breathe a little for the small and very living person inside. It’s a pity that such moments are not too frequent, and at the same time I'm glad they still happen. They happen in therapy and therapeutic groups, when meeting your loved one, when you visit your mother and, of course, children, who are very generous with tenderness. My gentle readers, many of you have had such moments of sharing and experiencing this feeling, thank you. And even if it wasn’t, just remember how you experienced tenderness the last time. For those who find it very difficult to remember tenderness towards people, you can imagine salmon or strawberry yogurt to taste on your tongue. And hug, rather hug yourself. With tenderness towards oneself begins a very great inner strength to be oneself and act for oneself and others for the good. Be generous - tenderness does not end, but only multiplies if you are in contact with it. I will be glad and grateful if you share your memories in the comments.