I'm more than I thought, I'm better than I thought, I didn't know how good I was! Walt Whitman. Leaves of grass. Healthy self-esteem is formed when a person is sufficiently able to adequately assess not only his shortcomings, but also to a greater extent accept and study his strengths or virtues. I must say, taking into account the personal experience and experience of my clients, that this is precisely the most difficult task in working on self-esteem. Habit! No matter how much I talk about this, I repeat, I’m almost screaming. Of course, habit greatly facilitates its work for our brain, because a huge amount of time we exist in sleep mode, thanks to habits. On the one hand, this is good , the brain is activated only with some new action or unusual situation, but on the other hand, are all habits useful for us? There is something to think about! If we return to an adequate assessment of our strengths and weaknesses, then the same habits work. Negative thinking - this is a terrible habit, which not only can complicate life, but also make it simply unbearable. Of course, it is very important and useful to see and admit one’s shortcomings in oneself, but when a person begins to see only them in oneself, up to complete blindness in relation to their merits and strengths, their self-esteem is dealt a crushing blow. And it won’t take you a day or two to restore it. Let’s do a little experiment! Name 10 of your positive qualities. How quickly did you do it? Were there any difficulties? It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes. The main thing is to learn to correct them. Learning to be a friend to yourself and not an enemy is a good skill, it’s just that not everyone has learned this! You can and should work on this skill! The ability to notice both positive and negative can be compared to watching a color or black and white movie. What color is your life? If you have difficulty finding your positive qualities, and you understand that this is very difficult for you, sign up for a consultation! Your psychologist, Marina Eremenko Book a consultation +7 914 673 3907 (Telegram, WA, Viber) Registration via the website http://psy-excel.ru/Telegram Marina Eremenko