From the author: “Sometimes it seems to me that we are talking to her in different languages...” - quote from my client Sometimes it seems to me that we are talking to her in different languages...” - quote my client Hello! Logic or intuition, analysis or creativity, concessions or demands - the world of a man and a woman is radically different! Well, how to understand your wife? I, as a practical psychologist-psychotherapist (I provide consultations and provide assistance), know that men and women perceive themselves, other people and the world as a whole (!) in completely different ways. Agree that you have different roles in the family, you and your wife measure success in completely different categories, you like different music or films, food - you can continue ad infinitum... I hope I haven’t loaded you too much, but just enough for you to understand the main thought: “A man and a woman are naturally endowed with a sea of ​​differences. From physiological to psychological. But, despite this, we are made for each other, we are like 2 pieces of the same puzzle...” To make it more clear, let’s imagine that you are racing on your “iron horse” to your favorite music (I’m talking about a car, if anything, otherwise it’s not enough -What are you thinking about?) Maybe you drive it confidently, feeling the resistance of the steering wheel when turning, hear small pebbles hitting the bottom, enjoying the throttle change when overtaking a summer resident... Well, if this is not about you, then admit that it would be cool! Wow... I even wanted to give it a go! Now imagine your wife driving! What picture pops up before your eyes? How does the wife perceive the car ride? Perhaps she is simply enjoying the beautiful views of autumn trees, or maybe she is thinking about how she will have to do tedious parallel parking at the office. Listen, maybe everything is simpler and the wife has an idea of ​​what next boots or coat she will buy next Saturday. If I’m talking about a patient, then don’t be angry, I, too, am faced with the situation of “another boot.” It turns out that there is the same situation (“driving a car” in our example). But you and your wife perceive this situation completely differently. Do you catch what I mean? Okay, if it were just a car trip... Your wife and you perceive family relationships, family and life in general differently. This is where family problems come from - just accept this fact! Why does a wife perceive the world differently and why can it be difficult to understand her? The main difference is male and female physiology, including hormones. Even any doctor will confirm this to you. You grew up in different families, with different parents and family foundations. I hope you realize that family and school are the first things that influence a small child. Before marriage (or better yet, union, because a good thing cannot be called marriage) in your life you faced unique unpleasant situations (in psychology, such situations are called terrible the word “critical incidents”): from a fight with a “bully classmate” to your first unhappy love... (Admit that you sometimes remember it!) And even if you think that these are things of the past and everything is in the past, critical incidents have an impact a huge impact on the psyche, and therefore the life of a person as a whole. By the way, this happens completely unconsciously! Do not believe? Then close your eyes, lower them down and remember the most unpleasant situation in your life that you have encountered... Well, how do you feel? What do you feel in your stomach, but in your chest or head? Come on, come on, shoot! You don’t want to, because it’s unpleasant? That's it... As you can see, there are a lot of reasons why you and your wife may not understand each other. I gave you only the main ones. So what to do with all this? The science of “psychology” will help you learn to understand your wife more easily. Hmm.. Psychology? Perhaps you don’t trust psychology yet and think it’s a waste of time or a boring topic for “nerds” or girls. This is fine! About 10 years ago, I myself thought so, when I studied at the furious Faculty of Economics and believed only in the material (the one that can be touched) world! Unfortunately, in our country there is not yet a culture of preserving psychological