How often parents are unable to distinguish between a child’s real need or his whim. Each of us, probably, at least once in our lives has witnessed a child’s hysteria in a store; teachers have probably more than once encountered the situation of “herd mentality,” i.e., one child wanted something and everyone else immediately needed it. How to understand these subtleties. After all, a child does not always need what he asks or demands. He may have many unconscious motives. And what should parents, educators, and grandparents do? Let’s look at this case together and analyze it. There are 8 people in the class, aged 3 to 4 years. There is a group lesson with a speech therapist. All the children are sitting on their chairs at the table, in the middle of the lesson, one boy says: “I’m thirsty.” “Okay,” the speech therapist answers (and goes to pour water) When suddenly the other two children say: “And I,” what am I? - asks the speech therapist (understanding perfectly well what the children mean) - drink - I’ll pour it now. What do we see? At first glance, it is the same desire, but completely different formulations. One child openly declares that he wants to drink, and the other two disguise another desire under this. Their hidden motive is to attract attention, not to satisfy desires. How did we know this? Everything is very simple, if a child formulates his desire not as a request, but as a monosyllabic phrase - this is the main sign that you should pay attention to before running to fulfill the child’s whim. Knowing this will save many parents from unnecessary actions that can harm both the child and the parents themselves. You can read even more articles on my blog yrkid.ru