Save your face Friends, what is courage? In war it is clear: it is not the one who is not afraid who is brave, but the one who “goes into battle”, even when he is scared. Without war it is also clear: when it is dangerous for life, and you are protecting your life and even the lives of others. What if it’s not dangerous? Why courage if it's not dangerous? Well, why do we need it? For example, everyone says one thing, but you have a different opinion. Do you need courage to do this? Or is it not needed? After all, you can remain silent. Be like everyone else. Be unprincipled. Big deal. We are not proud. Okay, you can remain silent, If it’s not important. And if you offended a friend. Not fair. Have you insulted your wife or mother? Or mother-in-law? Even if not your favorite one? Will you need courage? Protect them? Stop the offender? Convict him? What if they offend you? Maybe in this case there will be more courage? What if there is no need to protect anyone. But your opinion is different than most? Will you find the courage to say something different out loud - different from everyone else? And if you need to tell the truth about yourself, the not very pleasant truth? Can you find the courage? Or “in the bushes”? And then you will tremble like an autumn leaf in the wind, like a sail in a storm, like a hare on the hunt, wondering “whether they will find out or not...” That’s it. Not everyone has the courage to do this. For all of the above. Especially to tell the truth about yourself and end fear. Once and for all. Some, especially smart ones, find excuses: What am I, a fool or something, talking about myself? What if they don’t find out? Let them prove it. And I won’t confess... Very dubious defenses. You can’t deceive yourself and you can’t lie to yourself. But if you say it yourself in front of everyone, you will immediately put an end to your fears. For example, you smoke and hide it from family members, at work and from friends. But everyone understood everything a long time ago. Your desires may be as follows: stop lying and smoke freely, or stop smoking, or another option. Agree that if you confessed and gained courage, you would stop hiding forever; in the end, this is your personal choice. And also, by informing everyone that you smoke and want to quit, you would have acquired a support team in your not so easy task. Agree that being brave is almost always more profitable than vice versa. This way you will save yourself and “your face”, as recognition of your right whatever you choose, in which you firmly believe. The author of the article is medical psychologist Tatyana Silaeva. Online courses for specialists. Work of a clinical psychologist in a clinic - conclusions, contracts, reports for clients. Online course on getting rid of fears and gaining confidence. How to prevent conflicts..... ....and make Lemonade out of "lemon""