Obedient teenagers and ideal parents. Parents want teenagers to be obedient as before, and the children themselves want their parents to be different, not the way they are. I watch the guys and I see how in each of them some parental traits are stitched like a thread, especially in younger children. And it’s amazing to see how a teenager, like a snake, renews his skin, abandons the whole past. It’s like he’s on the threshold, he’s already coming out, but so far there’s nothing of his own. And this of his own is slowly beginning to sprout. Yes, there is also a big eye on trends and what is fashionable. But among my teenagers there are those who go their own way. I have great respect for the parents of such creative children who do not stop their attempts at self-expression, but rather support them, even if it seems very strange. One of my students recently told me that It was a discovery for her that she could tell her problems to her parents and they wouldn’t turn away or reject her. You can’t imagine how much teenagers miss this! Especially girls! For almost everyone, all their problems boil down to the fact that their parents certainly take care of them physically, but they are completely out of emotional contact with the teenagers. The reasons are different. And it is an illusion to think that since teenagers are already independent, they do not need contact with their parents. Yes, now they have friends, hobbies, and a reaction of solitude in order to find new guidelines in life that are suitable for them, and for this they need to say goodbye to something outdated. They need support that such strange people will love them and accept, confused, aggressive and rude, unsightly, vulnerable, tender, sensitive. Sometimes this is enough for a teenager to know that even if he messes up in life, his mother will scold and forgive. For parents, this is also a time of change, rethinking the relationship with their growing children. And how important it is for parents to know the psychology of adolescence in order to understand why the child changes so much and how to react to it. So as not to get offended yourself and behave like an adult, not a child. There are no ideal parents and families, and even if you are a parent and understand that you are missing something or have been injured, well, you can always talk about it. Often through pain people grow up, especially children, realizing that it is impossible to be perfect in this world. Do you have any traumas from adolescence? Did you cope with everything? Share ways)