Good afternoon, Dear Friends! And we continue to study the work of a psychologist and its various features, we continue to share our experience and knowledge accumulated during practice. I bring to your attention the three hundred and sixty-ninth article in the series! - for example, a client often says something like the following during sessions: “I want to go on vacation, and then I need to develop my business, since the financial component does not suit me now: I want to buy my own house and I will live outside the city, since there is not enough air, and I will take my children to school by car. Not all of my loved ones support me in this endeavor, but I want to insist on moving...” And so on, and so on... And so from time to time, during each meeting, approximately the same thing happens. What do we see here? Here we see that the client has a defense mechanism called “intellectualization.” He may have difficulty getting in touch with his feelings. It is important for a psychologist not just to listen, but to actively ask questions about the feelings that certain events evoke in him (the client). You can say something like this to the client: “You talk about events very often, but you almost never touch on your feelings. Maybe it’s difficult for you to come into contact with them…”; - feelings are not valuable in themselves. They block some actions of our client. By experiencing feelings, understanding what causes them, we unlock what our client has been holding back. In place of feelings, something new arises in him and his life continues to flow freely; - about something else. For example, a client is going through a difficult time in his life right now; something extremely unpleasant has happened to him. He recently managed to calm down a little and come to his senses. We see that he begins to work himself up, repeats his story again, begins to say something like the following: “Imagine, I lost everything, both. And how I tried to achieve...” If we see that the client simply begins to slide into an affect that is unproductive for work, and shakes up his experiences, then we can say something like the following: “Don’t poison your soul...” Do you also want to share something? Please write below in the comments! It will be important and interesting for everyone to learn something useful for their work or just for themselves! Thank you for your attention! The next, three hundred and seventieth article in the series will be published soon: tomorrow or the day after tomorrow! If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! So as not to miss interesting things, subscribe to my publications! And please share the material on social networks! :) Sign up for a consultation:+ 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2-