"I tried NLP myself, but nothing works for me." “I read a book on NLP, did the assignments, but there is no change.” “I found a cool book on psychology, it just changed my mind, well, nothing has changed in life, yes.” From every 4th client I hear in response to “What have you already tried?” Sometimes I hear right during a preliminary telephone conversation, “NLP? I tried it, it doesn’t work.” “A friend of mine tried it too, bullshit, nothing works.” And it works during sessions. How so, what is the magic. And not only NLP, in general a variety of psychotechnologies work. Metaphorical cards, arrangements (yes, yes, they can be done without additional people), coaching technologies. Works well, changes after each session. People are surprised - well, uh, how is that possible? You, Sergei Sergeevich, are probably a wizard? You have to have the Gift, right? It is very tempting to answer “Of course. I am the Chosen One! NLP is only available to patriarchs and hereditary archmages!” :) Now I will tell you the Main Secret! Even a few. 1) You see your problem at the behavioral level. It is almost impossible to understand what thinking errors, what perceptual filters create it “from the inside.” Reversing behavior with behavior... well... you've already tried that, haven't you? To understand the true cause-and-effect relationships, an outsider is desirable. And conversations with him should not be around “this and that is happening, and I react in such and such a way and feel this and that,” but around “WHY is this exactly happening. WHY do I need this?” so important." No money for a therapist, but have friends? Talk to them in this vein. Perhaps they will be able to understand your systemic thinking errors. A specific example - a phobia of dogs, in addition to an emotional reaction, probably contains a belief like “dogs are dangerous.” The desired solution like “even though dogs are dangerous, I want to learn to overcome fear” will not work with a 99% chance. We need to find and remove this belief. For self-examination, when using psychotechnology, make sure that you are working at the level of cause. 2) Depth of self-hypnosis. During the session, the dive is controlled by a specialist. When you use psychotechnology yourself, the responsibility for the condition lies with you. It doesn’t matter what the brand is called - NLP, hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis, theta healing, constellations... almost all technologies work in a hypnotic state. There is a small percentage of people who easily and automatically fall into hypnosis when they think about their problems, feelings, etc. For others, hypnosis and fantasy are two different things. Imagining your mother and telling her “I forgive you” and forgiving your mother in regressive hypnosis are very different events for the psyche. For self-testing - if the technology implies that you need to imagine something, first make sure that you are in an “altered state of consciousness” (you can call it whatever you want, I’m comfortable calling it self-hypnosis). How can I be sure? Get any phenomenon. For example, “ask” for your hand to fly up on its own. If it takes off, the chance of success increases. Emotions should break through to tears (well, or very close to them). 3) Often the technology described is too narrow and does not suit you personally. This is fine. Template techniques rarely work at all. You may have to use more than one. What is important is that we need to work out the causes of the problem, its current state and, MANDATORY! future state and behavior. The reasons have not been worked out? The effect, if any, will be temporary. No connection to the present? There will be no effect at all, this is not about you. Not "done" future behavior? No behavior change = no effect. For self-test - Reasons, current state, desired state. 4) Lie. Lying to yourself. There’s just something you can’t do, even though it’s important. Do you feel that most of your problems are related to your parents, but want to solve them, bypassing the central pain? Will not work. Alas, this is normal. The psyche protects us. For self-examination - are you really working with what is most important to you? If you follow all these rules, what is the chance that (some)/12773/